The Effects of Chemotherapy on The Body

Chemo is no joke – it’s like nuking an anthill as it kills the cancer, but it also ravages your entire body. You can see the visible side effects but some of the most annoying side effects aren’t visible to the naked eye. Your body has been fighting a war and it’s tired. Your mind has been clouded with what I call “chemo brain” and so you’re not as sharp and it’s harder to remember things. Your hormone levels are being tweaked around with injections and pills so at times you feel verifiably crazy.

That last invisible side effect – the hormones – is what I feel affects me the most on this challenge after my radical    Hysterectomy and appendectomy surgery. 

I like to think of myself as a pretty laid back, easy going type of person. However, on this challenge I feel I’ve had very little patience, leading to a short fuse and intense mood swings. Im not sure if it’s from the steroids, from the chemo, from multiple surgeries, or the blood transfusions, iron transfusions (just to name a few). 

Things I would normally brush off eat at me non-stop. I could feel the inner rage building, creating a monster that tip-toes around inside me just waiting for something or someone to piss me off. 

Feeling like I don’t have control of my emotions is one of the most frustrating side effects. When I was first told about these mood swings and menopausal craziness I laughed it off thinking, “Stop! I can control how I act and how I feel. I’ll be fine.” 

Well, I learned very quickly how missing a pill or an injection drastically affects my mood. 

Their are some days I’m incredibly sad for no reason, my body feels heavy and exhausted, and I don’t feel the warmth of happiness anywhere around me and the saddest part of it is when I’m in the company of happy, motivated, positive and upbeat people I still feel detached 😞.

I can go from 😂 laughing to crying 😢 as quickly as you can turn a page to a book. Most days I try really hard to mask it with a smile because I’m embarrassed to admit these things. Working with a post-chemo combat body is a daily struggle. There are days when it’s physically & emotionally draining; the inner struggle with trying to keep it all together and appear balanced as everyone else is tough!

I do have another upcoming hurdle to jump  over very soon which may appear to be a setback to the naked eye; (I have to admit I often internalize it as a setback) but I will continue to talk myself off that emotional ledge whenever I start feeling that spirit of defeat and allow God to have is way and order my steps🙏🏽.

I don’t want to ever let the after-effects of chemo/treatments win so I will continue to push through as much as I can so my body can get used to overcoming the feeling of wanting to quit. 

One ❤️ Love 

The Two Faces of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

I Recently Dated One Of Them 😧 The Covert…  

Make sure you watch her entire series on the covert narcissist! The other is the Overt narcissist 🕺🏽

Ladies be ever so careful who you date, rather it be casual dating or romantic. Every relationship requires a masculine and a feminine energy to thrive. If a woman wants to find peace with the man she is dating or on a date with they should always be protected and respected.

If The Feelings Are Mutual The Effort Will Be Equally Mutual 

You know that guy the one you want to date, the one who is sending mixed signals?  He’s all over you one second, or totally ignoring you the next, isn’t putting labels on your relationship & keeps making excuses just to keep you around?

Yep that dude… he is simply not that into you! 🤦🏽‍♀️

Ok, maybe he kinda does like you a little bit. He probably thinks you’re hot and entertaining to some degree, so he wants to keep you around for those times when the chick he really wanted decides she doesn’t want him. I mean who will he call to smash if he allows you to run off and find a real boyfriend?


Guys are never playing hard-to-get or being aloof to get you interested. He isn’t ghosting you because he’s coy; he’s ghosting you because he doesn’t want to deal with telling you he’s just not that into you. 

I know, I know… This sucks to acknowledge. It blows. I know that. I too have foolishly been there done that. There have been plenty of times in my sordid past when I have convinced myself that a guy is going to come around, & stop treating me like second-class garbage and be real with me. But, that guy never did. 

Please understand this if you don’t remember anything else you’ve read thus far and will read going forward.  Everything is black and white when it comes to men. They really are the most uncomplicated  species God created. If he’s into you, he will show you. If he wants to make it happen, he will make it happen.

It pains me to write this, but if I don’t, who will? 

This is my social media responsibility here ladies #girlpower 💯👩🏽‍💻

Guys have two modes: looking for a girlfriend or not looking for a girlfriend. Looking for a fallback chick not looking for one. They are either all over you, calling you, asking you out and wanting to be with you 100 percent or they don’t. — There are no gray areas with men.
Yes. You read that right. There are NO MIND GAMES WITH MEN.

Those “games” you think he’s playing? Is you trying to make excuses for what you refuse to accept. 

Those confusing signals are actually the CLEAREST signals of them all: he’s not that into you. He doesn’t care. He doesn’t. He simply does not.

Move on… You want to date your best friend. You want to date a guy who makes you laugh, who you can do silly, ridiculous gross sh*t with and never be self-conscious or insecure.

Wanting more for yourself is the only way to GET more for yourself. So don’t settle for something so beneath you. No matter how much you want him to be that guy.

Be with someone who doesn’t make you feel like you’re unworthy, neglected or pathetic. There are guys out there who will treat you like the queen 👸 you are. 

💕One Love 👫