You know that guy the one you want to date, the one who is sending mixed signals? He’s all over you one second, or totally ignoring you the next, isn’t putting labels on your relationship & keeps making excuses just to keep you around?
Yep that dude… he is simply not that into you! 🤦🏽♀️
Ok, maybe he kinda does like you a little bit. He probably thinks you’re hot and entertaining to some degree, so he wants to keep you around for those times when the chick he really wanted decides she doesn’t want him. I mean who will he call to smash if he allows you to run off and find a real boyfriend?
Guys are never playing hard-to-get or being aloof to get you interested. He isn’t ghosting you because he’s coy; he’s ghosting you because he doesn’t want to deal with telling you he’s just not that into you.
I know, I know… This sucks to acknowledge. It blows. I know that. I too have foolishly been there done that. There have been plenty of times in my sordid past when I have convinced myself that a guy is going to come around, & stop treating me like second-class garbage and be real with me. But, that guy never did.
Please understand this if you don’t remember anything else you’ve read thus far and will read going forward. Everything is black and white when it comes to men. They really are the most uncomplicated species God created. If he’s into you, he will show you. If he wants to make it happen, he will make it happen.
It pains me to write this, but if I don’t, who will?
Guys have two modes: looking for a girlfriend or not looking for a girlfriend. Looking for a fallback chick not looking for one. They are either all over you, calling you, asking you out and wanting to be with you 100 percent or they don’t. — There are no gray areas with men.
Yes. You read that right. There are NO MIND GAMES WITH MEN.
Those “games” you think he’s playing? Is you trying to make excuses for what you refuse to accept.
Those confusing signals are actually the CLEAREST signals of them all: he’s not that into you. He doesn’t care. He doesn’t. He simply does not.
Move on… You want to date your best friend. You want to date a guy who makes you laugh, who you can do silly, ridiculous gross sh*t with and never be self-conscious or insecure.
Wanting more for yourself is the only way to GET more for yourself. So don’t settle for something so beneath you. No matter how much you want him to be that guy.