More than anything, I admire decisive women like myself. Who doesn’t seek your approval nor does she wait for your forgiveness. She just stands up in her truth and says here’s what I’m doing and screw you if you don’t like it.
There’s something about making life decisions without question or regard that has an underrated appeal. Do you know how hard that is? To choose a path and blatantly tell people the plan instead of asking for their advice?
It requires muting every voice – those of the people around you, and the ones in your head – that tell you you’re making the wrong decision.
Look around at the women in your life and I guarantee you at least one of them is this exact breed. She’ll take your breath away, not because of the way she looks, but because of what she’s doing and how she’s doing it.
In my life, I can point out women who devoted their lives to raising kids on their own, or going back to school to get that degree, and woman who said yes to the far more challenging option because they knew they wanted it bad enough to make it work.
These are not the women who dabble in being ~rebellious~ They are the women who have one beautiful plan and others to fall back on when needed. The women who didn’t take the help, even though it may have been offered. The woman who were offered a simple path but decided to take the extraordinary one instead.
Whatever you do don’t try to stop her!
Accept that she won’t shy away from the advice she doesn’t like. She’ll give you a full explanation of why you’re wrong. She will never succumb to something based on your cautions. She won’t let you see her falter.
She will be hot headed at times, rash and fired up. She will, occasionally, get upset at you when it’s not your fault because you’re the closet person she has, but she will be worth it because her passion knows no bounds.
She will never bore you…
She will defend what she believes in and ruthlessly argue her point of view. What you may not realize is when you’re not in the room she will defend you as if you were there when necessary.
You can come into her life and become a priority, but you will never take the place of previous priorities she already has. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you, it means she lives an equally balance lifestyle and those in it knows exactly where they stand in her life. She doesn’t have time to play games when there so much important goals that need to be accomplished.
She is brutally honest. She says what she feels when she feels it. She is not a “long texter” or a “short texter” or a “distant texter.” If something merits a long response, she’ll send back a novel. If she’s being short with you, it’s because she’s busy. She is open about her sexuality, her make-up regiment and her donut intake.
These are just details, and she’s not shy about exposing them.You can only hope she’ll give you enough time to get to know her. If she says she will, she actually means it. If she says it’s not the right time, trust that it’s not a ploy to get out of seeing you, or make you work harder. She just has other priorities that require her attention. She’s consumed with pushing against the confines of her own life and everything else sometimes pales in comparison.
If you can get her love, hold on to it. It’s rare that she would give her heart away to just anyone. Not because she’s protecting it, but because she’s thrown it into so many other things. Places. People. Work. The best thing you can do is try to keep up, be consistent with your love and admiration for her, be honest, and genuine or be left behind.