How many times have you made plans with someone as a direct result of a forced interaction, or committed to something out of pure obligation? I can’t be the only person who breathes a sigh of relief when a friend calls to cancel plans I was secretly dreading.
That being said, why is it so dog on difficult to outright say NO? I’m not talking about coming up with some lame excuse as to why you can’t make it. I’m talking about literally saying, “No, I genuinely don’t feel like it” or “Honestly, I’d rather watch Netflix and sleep.” Just as the truth will set you free, so will the word “NO”.
I’ve definitely been caught up in the web of lies I’ve spun to try and excuse myself from an event. Recently I’ve realized that it’s simply not worth it. I have far too much trouble keeping up with the fake plans that I make in order to escape the real ones. Plus, I can’t “have dinner with my mommy” every night (my go-to excuse.)When it comes to committing to something, whether it involves helping a friend move or penciling someone in for a coffee date, you should only do it because you truly and sincerely want to. Of course, there are certain situations this does not apply. For example, if your best friend calls you drunk at 3AM and asks for a ride home you should go pick up your drunk friend, even if you really don’t want to, and feed him or her pizza on the way to there house. (real life scenario.)
I am incredibly guilty of spreading myself way too thin. I try desperately to find time in my schedule for anyone who asks; even if that means using my lunch breaks to let someone vent over a latte at Starbucks. Truthfully, that time should be reserved for me and me alone.
Start saying no to a few things and see how free it is. I guarantee you will end up happier, less stressed, and with a lot more free time on your hands to meet important deadlines.
🙋Go out into the world with peace and enjoy your day my friend.