Forrest Gump taught us “life is like a box of chocolates”. Dating is also like a box of chocolate. Just Imagine you are that incredible piece of chocolate. You taste great on your own but you seek someone to enhance your taste. Chocolate goes well with a lot of things and each combination creates a new and unique taste. Each taste has its pluses and minuses and each taste has a time and purpose in your life.
Let’s start with your high school boyfriend.
He is Graham crackers and marshmallows. Your relationship is a youthful treat that is often sticky and messy but all together enjoyable. It usually doesn’t last past graduation though as this combination is something made for the summer of your life, the beginning part when everything is just starting out. You have so much more to discover and explore. You will look back on this relationship with fond memories and nostalgia but the love you felt will eventually fade to nothing more then a charming anecdote.
You then head to college where you meet peanut butter.
You kind of just fell into each other. You fool yourself into believing that what you have is an actual serious relationship when in reality he is just a college boy who wants one thing from you. Eventually your peanut butter decides it would rather be with the fruity freshman jelly and ditches you. You will meet a lot of peanut butter in college, guys who just want to spread themselves on as many girls as they can. Eventually these guys may mature and grow into respectable human beings but by that time college will be long over and you will have moved on to bigger and better things.
Post grad you meet nuts.
He kind of remind you of your college boyfriend, peanut butter, but his douche bag antics are no longer smooth and cool because you are grown ass adults who should know better. Their behavior literally drive you nuts. They don’t text you back for days, they bail on dates, they ditch you at parties where you don’t know anyone. Ultimately they treat you like crap. They are hard and emotionally unavailable but when they are good to you, which isn’t often, it feels like the most amazing thing in the whole world. You ignore their many flaws in favor of their few redeeming qualities. Until you finally get tired of being hurt and realize you deserve better and throw all those damn nuts out the window.
Once you are completely over the nut obsession you meet bacon.
I personally do not like eating chocolate and bacon together but I know people who absolutely love the taste. This is the relationship that shouldn’t work but it does for some unknown reason. Maybe he is the guy who wants to travel all over the world who never wants to have kids. The taste is so unique and unlike anything you have ever experienced but sometimes too many differences, especially in regards to values and life goals can pull people apart.
Next you meet caramel.
This is the one that is almost right. You taste great together, however there’s a salty taste left in your mouth from this combo. You are finally ready for that serious commitment but you have to change too much of who you are for this person. You soon can’t tell where they end and you begin. Soon their personality is overpowering yours and even though you seem to be the ideal couple caramel isn’t worth losing yourself in a relationship.
Now is the time for self reflection. This is when you realize that you taste pretty amazing all on your own.
Lets face it pure chocolate is pretty incredible. It would be nice to have someone to share your life with but you don’t need another person to be happy. You are a complete food group all on your own. You are unique and special and once you come to see that you don’t actually need any other flavors but rather want them for the additional pleasure they bring you, and that’s when you just might find the one.
Fruit, your perfect match.
You meet that tasty strawberry or banana while your hanging out enjoying your life and while you do not need them to be the wonderful dessert that you are, they sure do make everything just a bit sweeter. This is what a healthy relationship is. One filled with respect, trust, and true love for one another. This person is someone you enjoy being with and have fun with but can also build a life with. You can eat them well into your 80’s without them making you sick or fat. They make you a better version of the already amazing person you are all on your own.
Perhaps this is not exactly how your life will unfold. Maybe you will end up with your high school sweet heart or decide you and bacon really aren’t that different deep down and they will be the ones to bring you to new heights. Maybe you will even decide you don’t want to be chocolate but rather cheese or spaghetti. Either way dating is about finding the right combination for you. So, the next time you have a bad date or you get dumped or you do the dumping just remember, if you don’t taste great with one person doesn’t mean you don’t taste great at all. 😋
❤️One Love 🍩🍫