Saying bad things about someone else can feel really good in the moment. It’s an instant high. Why? Because you’re putting someone else down and temporarily allowing yourself to forget about the things in your life that you’re upset about. But the high always ends, and you’re still left with the things you’re unhappy about in your life. Instead of wasting time worrying about other people, focus on your own life and the things you have the power to change. An additional bonus is when you avoid being shady, you also avoid unwanted negativity in your life.
If you want to stay in all weekend and relax, do it. Don’t go out just because you are young and you feel like going out is what young people are supposed to do. On the other hand, if you want to go out and blow off some steam but you feel like you should be responsible, follow your instincts. Do what you need to do to keep yourself happy, and stop trying to live up to some arbitrary standards.