I’m sharing some of my personal and valuable lessons I’ve learned growing up in a single parent household.
How to live on a budget
We weren’t rich but we weren’t poor. I didn’t have some of the extravagant luxuries some of my friends had, but we never wanted for anything we needed. I used to always tease my mom that she was cheap, but as I grew older, I learned that there’s a significant difference between being cheap and living on a budget.
It helps immensely to come from a traditional family.
The money issue is obvious, but there’s more than that. Both of your parents are at your disposal for anything you need — questions about homework, questions about life, quality time, etc. Even if the child(ren) see both of their parents often, there is always a time when one isn’t around. It’s a lot easier to just walk into a room and talk to them as opposed to having to make a phone call or get a ride to their house.
Family means everything.
I’ve always been extremely family-oriented on both sides, but when you come from a single parent home, it really magnifies how important family is. A strong family picks one another up when they’re down and it’s amazing to see, as well as be a part of.
Single parent kids aren’t always messed up.
Just because someone comes from a one parent household doesn’t necessarily mean they are damaged. Everyone handles it differently. It’s important to know that if you are considering or going through a divorce, you don’t need to automatically assume that your kids will be “messed up” as a result. Generally, the less drama in a divorce, the less likely the kid(s) will be affected.
Doing things independently feels amazing.
During our talks through the years, my mother has told me about the joy and thrill that comes from being able to do things on your own. I had that feeling when I bought my first car, among other life events. Independence is spectacular, if you can achieve it.
Respect is earned
My mother made an awesome decision not to bring a plethora of men around me, and I respect her to the fullest for that. When she did date I would always see her leave home alone and she always returned home alone. She definietly earned the title “lead my example”.
How to develop emotional balance.
One good thing about coming from a single parent is that you don’t really have the “good cop, bad cop” scenario. Since your primary parent is both, they learn how to be firm, yet understanding; you learn how to get a stronger hold on every other emotion in life too.
Good, loving, nurturing, selfless single parents in my opinion are amazing.
I know the majority of single parents are mothers, but let’s not leave out the single fathers doing their thing.
Even if they are getting a significant amount of child support, a single parent’s job is incredibly tough and at times super exhausting. Money helps some things, but money doesn’t cook meals; it doesn’t drive kids to practice; it doesn’t do laundry; it doesn’t clean the house. Even when I was old enough to work, my mother wouldn’t let me because “my only job was to do well in school.” Single parents are stars, and my mother lights up the night in my life then and even now with my own children.