I’ve listened to far too many people (mostly men, in my case) voice their fear of risk, commitment, and of course, love. I don’t think a commitment issue is a product of over-thinking. It’s more inclined to be perspective driven. And of course when you are standing at the edge of the mountain, with the wind blowing you forward in your own personal romance story, fear is a product of over thinking.
I’ve heard them all talk about their insecurities. Their selfish tendencies. Their fear of ‘fucking things up.’ How monetarily limited they are in their own lives. But aren’t we all? That’s the beauty of it. You aren’t alone and you don’t have to be. We, as humans, are all subject to insecurities, struggles, and pain. We all are eligible to give and receive love, feel love, and experience love. And in that sense, we are all life partners anyway.
We are more naturally committed to each other than we are fully aware of lots of times. We all share life and death and all the other phases of life.
Commitment is merely the meeting of two people, minds, bodies, and souls and the agreement to only share, receive, absorb, and embrace each other. It doesn’t mean your life stops or your bank accounts disintegrates. Chances are, if you’ve found a person, you’ve even remotely considered ‘committing’ to, someone you’ve already shared your mind, body, and soul with, there will only be growth.
The common perspective of commitment is more stunting than the actual thing. Blossom. Expand. Embrace it. Embrace you—and everything you think can go wrong. Life is a risk in itself and you, I, and the other billion people are all a part of it.
Start thinking less of commitment as a prison. And more as a garden. Water it and watch everything sprout and re-sprout through darkness and through light. There is room, space, beauty in all of us. And when we connect, there is only growth!
So open up. To the person sitting next to you, an old friend, the girl you’ve been keeping at bay because ‘oh gosh, life just got in the way of your busy schedule.’ Remember, there is always room—possibility, experience, the future, and not just for you, but for all of us. Life’s a journey that doesn’t have to be traveled alone, because at the end of the day, we’re all seeds in the same soil, stars in the same sky. We all are life partners to a certain degree.