Relationship Sabotage #1. “I think I can change him”
In your relationship, you may be able to get him to pick up the dirty socks on the floor or stop clipping his toenails on the rug. But certain personality traits are inherent and no amount of cajoling or nagging can change them.
Relationship Sabotage #2. The dreaded“where is this going?” talk
In relationships, when men hear the words, “Where is this going?” they freeze up. Women ask this question because there’s a lack of communication and they want to know where they stand.
For example, if she wants a committed relationship but he doesn’t want to be tied down, then that’s an issue that needs to be brought into the open.
Problem is, men don’t like to be put on the spot and discuss their feelings. And between us girls, we know it’s because they don’t know their feelings or how to handle them.
So instead of trying to guarantee your future relationship together, focus on your guy’s actions. Look for the little (and sometimes hidden) signs that he’s committed to the relationship. Does he open the door for you, answer the phone when you call and make an effort to impress your friends?
If so, he’s investing in the relationship’s future. On the other hand, if the only time he calls you is to invite you over for hanky panky and can’t remember your favorite color or food, it’s safe to say he’s just not that into you.
Relationship Sabotage #3. Giving up your passions
Being in a relationship means making time for your man and keeping his needs in mind. But if his needs are the only thing you have in mind, there’s a problem. Living your life to please your partner and catering to his every need won’t make anyone happy.
Does he refuse to say he’s sorry, no matter how wrong he is? Does he insist on hanging out with the boys every Friday night?
Women who constantly berate their partners for things they can’t change are headed for failure. The woman will feel ignored, and the man will feel constantly nagged.
Relationship Sabotage #4. Living for the future
Many woman stay with a partner because they believe that somehow, the future will be better. Even though the present is filled with arguing and conflict, they hold out for the possibility that their luck will turn around.
Of course every relationship will has its rough patches, and if you’re both in love then it’s worth the effort to work out your issues.
But if you’re arguing every day or you grow sad every time you think of him, then it doesn’t make sense to stay together. Occasionally, fights are okay, but your relationship should bring you happiness overall.